Sadhguru’s take on the intricacies of marriage and relationships always goes a little deeper than conventional advice. Often we blame the failure of relationships on circumstances or the other person, but according to Sadhguru, there is one mistake that ruins most marriages. Sadhguru keeps sharing inspirational stories with people on social media every day. In such a situation, he has also expressed his views regarding the relationship. He has explained why marriages are ending.
This mistake is ruining relationships
According to Sadhguru, distance comes in relationships when we start considering the other person as our ‘property’. The love and respect that is there in the beginning turns into ‘rights’ with time. We forget that our partner is also a person, who has his own desires and dignity. When you become possessive over someone, you unknowingly stifle their freedom. Sadhguru says that no human being likes to live in a cage, even if that cage is made of gold. As soon as the relationship changes from ‘partnership’ to ‘possession’, love starts suffocating and distance starts appearing in the relationship.
Basic mantra to save relationship
1. Take responsibility for your own happiness
Most people get married because they want their happiness from someone else. Sadhguru says, “If you are a happy person, your company will be a pleasure. But if you are dependent on others for your happiness, you will become a burden on them.” So don’t ask for happiness, share your happiness.
2. Invest consistently
We often think that once we get married, our work is over. Sadhguru sees it like a plant. If you stop watering it today, it will dry up tomorrow. Relationships need attention, respect and love every day. It is not an ‘achievement’ that has been achieved, but an ongoing process.
3. Praise
Bitterness comes in a relationship when we start taking the other person’s goodness for granted. Sadhguru advises to always be grateful to your partner that they chose to be a part of your life.
